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He said he suffered mental and emotional trauma ever since and described various nasty events in his life that he maintained were an outcome of this molestation.
OK, these things happen and we have to address them.
What got me interested was the fact he was awarded well over one million dollars in compensation.
I’ll cut to the bottom line. I think this is encouragement to accuse any older male who some guy has a gripe with or even someone he knows is gay and it is a sure fire way to set himself up for life.
He can own a home and invest enough to live comfortably till his dying days. It’s a very good business and it can all be done in about six months.
Sexuality and puberty can cause massive upheavals.
The stealing and vandalism stage sets in. They push every boundary to test it. Alcohol and drugs offer their invitations and peer group pressures take hold.
A lot of them do get into trouble.
Boys will get erections anywhere; on a buss, in a parade, walking along a street, just sitting or playing with the dog.
Testosterone driven boys will stick their new found manhood anywhere that might feel good. They experiment. It’s all part of growing up.
Now there are two types of adult male who can take advantage of this.
The first is the type who provides an alternative to masturbation. He is usually family or a family friend, therefore trusted. His role is an extension of an older brother model. If you think brothers don’t experiment then you are wrong. It depends on the years between them; more years, less interaction.
But this relationship, which happens to involve sex, is generally a stabilizing factor in growing up. When the boy discovers girls the relationship usually dissolves but they remain friends.
The other type is the predator who coerces and takes over the master/slave role. He uses fear to keep hold of his prey. This guy is sick and needs help. This is the guy who beats people and has an insecurity problem.
He or she (it’s common for women to do this but less than men. Women use a slightly different method) uses the ‘partner’ as an owned object to do their bidding like a trained dog.
This is the personality regardless of sexual orientation that beats his partner and kids and is cruel to animals.
He usually puts on the face of exactly the opposite, being friendly and kissing babies. Any relationship based on fear or insecurity is destined for disaster.
A youngster in such a situation will be scarred emotionally and grow up to repeat it if he does not get psychiatric help. I can’t see how giving him a million dollars will stop him from carrying the mentality of a future abuser.
I can see other men saying that father O’Leary or Scout Master Smith or any prominent, well moneyed male who would fit the profile, forced me to have unwanted sex with him all those years ago when I was 14. Therefore the traumas I have faced in these turbulent years are because of him.
(He is the reason I take these tripy, er I mean medication and why my marriage to that slu..er beloved wife broke up and why I’m too laz..er can’t hold a job and…Yes, I know I’m making fun of it now)
But it has been happening with women for ages. Notice how few paternity cases there are now that DNA testing is here.
Molestation is difficult to prove. It usually relies on others agreeing to the same facts or story. These men knew each other for years.
Quite frankly if I didn’t have any scruples, I would spend a week or two getting my story straight for a million dollars.
Throw in a few tears and a good deal of indignant anger and maybe some rewritten lines from an obscure movie and you’ve got your last payday. Just hold the “yippee” till you get back home.
This is by no means support for any abuser but if this enticement to wealth continues the system is wide open for abuse.
**Men are usually the ‘baddies’ in the teacher/ student relationships but in recent years women have been put in jail for having affairs with male students. I used to think like most people; that the guy was getting his good times by taking unfair advantage of the girl. But when women got into the picture I reconsidered.
I would have loved to have been shown the ropes by a mature aged woman.
It would have made me much more mature. Heaven knows at that age a guy can handle the physical side of things with flying colors. It’s all that painfully slow growing up that hurts.
Establishing such a relationship would have kept me off the streets with the lads on Friday and Saturday nights seeking alcohol and girls who would drop their knickers if we filled them with cheap bubbly.
The aimless “nothing to do” vandalism would disappear.
The age of maturity comes in here too. Girls mature before boys. Some boys mature physically at 12, others at 18. Emotional maturity is anywhere. Many adults are not emotionally mature.
I don’t think adults should go so far as having sexual relationships with teens but it is obvious that a more complete open relationship is beneficial.
Parents should be more like big brother/ big sister than law makers and authority figures.
He did and was paid the money. Soon there were many other offers of the same amount and the money duly paid.
Naturally this moved on to pants, undies and eventually masturbation for the camera. All this while collecting lots of money. Hundreds of thousands of dollars in fact. $?00,000!
He got all this money for doing what he would normally do in private but he had the camera on.
He was still in his room, untouched, unafraid, able to stop any time, safe, with no ‘manager’ to pay and laughing all the way to the Pay Pal account.
He was exploiting people who got their thrills watching what they needed for stimulus to pleasure their selves.
This is the same thing as strip shows or exotic dancers or full Monty male shows only going the extra distance. He could do that because he was safe from harm.
You could say he prostituted himself but nobody touched him.
Where did the money go? Did he blow it all on good times when he should have invested in rental property? Or he could have started several high yield businesses while honing his entrepreneur skills. He could have been set for life with a start like that.
Now what about the people who paid him?
What is society doing to create people who need to pay to see this? Shouldn’t we be more open and less Victorian or Puritan?
If we keep looking at porn we get bored with it. There’s only so much can be done with the body. When you’ve seen enough, you’re done. It’s gone. Keep hiding it and we want to seek it out.
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Jay Ross.
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